My sister reached out to me about the GREAT video below (click the link to watch). She said that after watching it she came to understand what Lance & I meant when we state that J is overstimulated. It’s not just about what has physically transpired during the day, but for J it includes all the lights, sounds, smells, people, and places. It’s a whole different universe for J compared to us mere mortals.
If one truly thinks about all the noises they hear throughout the day, they are all sensory simulates and often times a sensory overload for a person with autism. It’s quite easy for a neuro-typical (NT) person to process all these sounds without a blink. But a person with autism processes differently; separating all the sounds out (some sounds may be more acute than others), and some sounds also turn into visual input that need to be sorted through too. This is how some autistic minds operate. It isn’t something to look down on, critique or shy away from; it is something to understand and realize that this autistic person is trying to process our overly complex world.
The worst for those with autism is that most of their struggle is internalized until they can’t process anymore and a meltdown occurs. This is because more often than not, autistic individuals (especially when they are younger and sometimes into adulthood), are unable to express themselves when an abundance of stimulates occur.
I’m not an expert, but I am an expert on our son and his basic functions & feelings. I know when the shit is going to hit the fan, I can usually feel it in my gut. I know when it’s time to call it quits and go home (though I may not personally want to just yet). I know when a meltdown can’t be managed or redirected and physical strength and restraint is used to ensure no one gets hurt.
Over stimulation is is something we have to think about daily with our J. It plays a factor into what we can expect from him, how we monitor his wants & needs and how we analyze his behavior. A busy day at school can lead our boy to be overstimulated whereas a lazy Sunday at home may produce an anxious “let’s go let’s go” boy. We constantly assess his mood and that is why Lance & I always ask each other how J’s day was or how he was with each other. To be in the know helps us and more importantly helps our J.